Going with the Flow
Life has a flow to it
Today I want to talk to you about the river of life. When you look at who you are, at the things you like to do, you’ll find that your life is pointing in a certain direction. In today’s society, our friends and family – and a lot of self-help gurus – will often tell us to go against the flow, to try to be something we’re not. I think that’s exactly the wrong way to approach life.
Where does your life seem to be taking you?
Some days the river is low, some days it’s high, but it’s always flowing and it’s always moving in the right direction. You can fight against it, but life is going to pull you in that direction, whether you like it or not. The journey isn’t to start swimming against the flow, to be someone you’re not. Your success and your fulfilment in life is about finding your way in the river. That means, what’s downstream? What seems to be easiest? Where does your life seem to be taking you?
It’s all just experience
Sometimes you’ll go through some pretty tough experiences. That’s ok. They’re just experiences. It’s not the experience itself that will bring pain or discomfort to you, it’s what you do with the experience inside your head. Sit with it and understand that it will pass, as it always does. You may find those times in life where it seems toughest, where it seems that you’re challenged the most, are the ones where you get the most reward.
When you look through history and you look at anyone who’s made something of his or her life, you’ll see that they’ve always gone through a time of adversity. They’ll always look back and say ‘That was perfect, because what I learnt, what I had to go through, what I discovered about myself was the fuel for my life now’. Everyone has a story of ‘from here to there’. That’s the journey of life, that’s the river.
Don’t fight who you are
So, the lesson I leave you with today is don’t fight who you are. Don’t fight where life is taking you, because you’re exactly where you need to be. Get into the river, go downstream, and look for:
- What’s great about you?
- What excites you?
- What are your strengths?
- What are the things you love to do?
Start to lean into those, and before you know it you’ll be downstream somewhere, in the next exciting chapter of your life.
The Pitch – Transformational Leadership
9, 16 and 23 August 2013
Noah’s on the Beach, Newcastle NSW.
Great benefits don’t keep the best people – great leaders do. Are you and your leaders making it harder or easier to win?
Now there’s a program that provides the “How-to Guide” for leaders, a road map to build self sustained resilience, loyal star employees, and enviable performance. I hope you can join me for 3 exciting days of laughter, learning and discovery.
Become a Transformational Leader
Leadership is not about process – ask anyone who’s worked for a technicrat, a lawyer or an engineer if you want proof. Processes are tools. People aren’t.
Discover the easy way to transform your team and its performance by coming to my Transformational Leadership Program. At the Program you’ll focus on the 3 key areas to grow people, profit and performance, namely You, Your Relationships, and Your Team. As you do, you’ll discover how to avoid the common mistakes that get leaders and businesses into a world of pain.
5 Classic Mistakes Leaders Make – Come Get the Antidote
- Trying to be someone you’re not. Throw the book of tricks away and be yourself. Discover how your style is the only style you need to succeed.
- Motivating with money. Avoid the entitlement mentality. Discover what the hands-down best motivators are and how to use them.
- Creating stress instead of challenge. Begin to manage perspective, boost creativity and productivity by setting the right frame.
- Mixing fear with discipline. Learn how to make accountability your number one trust building process.
- Taking responsibility for team dynamics. It’s up to you to lead the team, not be a babysitter. Learn how tohelp everyone grow up, own what they create and build something worthwhile.
It’s making waves…
“Thank you, after many years in management my journey starts again, with a fresh set of skills and tools. In one word – Brilliant!” – David P, HR Manager, UGL.
“Not just business skill, but life skills.” Ian B, Owner, Vitality Junction.
“Andrew provides an engaging view on teamwork from both perspectives. His experience, theory and application made the 3 days a great investment for all the management team.” – Paul T, CFO, The Bloomfield Group
“Andrew rocks!!! The delivery of the leadership sessions is more advanced than anything I have experienced in the past. Real content that I can use.” Craig M, Director, HRG
The Gift – The Sayings of Lao Tzu
Lao Tzu, originally credited as the author of the Tao Te Ching, taught that striving against your nature is counterproductive. We should follow and shape the flow of events, not fight against the natural order of things.
The oldest known excavated text of the Tao Te Ching was written on bamboo tablets and dates back to the late 4th century BC.