Who Do You Think You Are?
I travel to businesses, run seminars, talk to large groups of people all over the place, and one of the things we always end up talking about is what drives behaviour and how to change it. Why do we want to change the behaviour? Because behaviour is an action, and action gives us results. If you want a different result, you’ve got to do something differently.
One of the things a lot of us struggle with is ‘How do we change those behaviours?’
Trying to do it rationally – saying ‘I have to do something differently, I’m going to break that habit’ – can be difficult, because those behaviours come from deeper levels of consciousness. In the end, people aren’t their behaviours. Behaviour is really the result of what’s going on beneath the surface. You know yourself, when you’re wound up, when you’re stressed, you behave differently to when you’re calm, relaxed, centred – more ‘heart-focused’. So when we look at the filters that drive our behaviour we need to come down a few levels. We need to look at values and beliefs, and then, if we keep on going down to deeper levels of consciousness, we get to the notion of who you think you are.
Everyone’s had the experience of taking some sort of action and only going so far, only taking so much on because that was consistent with who you thought you were, consistent with your identity. Then, say on the sporting field, you magically do something you never thought you could do. You might pull off a try-saving tackle, hit a six in cricket, be shooting in netball or basketball and get that unbelievable shot. All of a sudden you think ‘I can do that’. So guess what happens? You’re more likely to do it again. You’re more likely to try it again, and of course you’ll get more success.
What about in business?
Who hasn’t been asked at some time to do something they thought was out of their comfort zone. I ask this in my business sessions and everyone puts their hand up.
I say: ‘Once you did it, the next time you had that difficult task, did you find it was easier?’
Of course, they all say yes. They all shifted who they thought they were to expand their sense of identity, and by expanding their sense of who they were, their behaviours changed.
So if you want to radically change your behaviour, don’t worry about looking at what you’re doing, look at who you are.
Who you think you are is absolutely a limitation, I promise that. It’s much less than who you really are. Start to pick away at the limitations you’ve imposed upon yourself at that level of identity and before you know it you’ll start living a bigger life, you’ll start getting more fulfillment in life. You’ll be happier, and you’ll notice your behaviour changes as you go outside the boundaries of who you thought you were.
Once you expand the idea of who you are, it never shrinks back to its former self. The journey is forever outward.
I want to say thank you to everyone who came along to our 1 October workshop. What a great night! Here’s what some of the participants had to say:
“Andrew has made me realise I can change my whole life. I have said goodbye to depression and negativity and hello to happiness and positivity. He is the most inspirational person I have ever met and I am so grateful for my new life!” –Carole
“I attended Andrew’s 5Ps talk and am applying his simple steps to my life. These are making a profound change to the way I see my circumstances and helping me to live my life more peacefully and authentically. Andrew speaks a language that can be understood by everyone and gives simple easy to follow tools to improve how we see the world.” –Mary
“I’ve been to a number of Andrew’s events. I always learn something new and I’m also reminded of the things I know I should practice each day. And the best part is…I have a lot of fun while I’m there. Andrew is truly inspirational and his passion is contagious!”–Maxine
“I am writing to say how much I appreciated your recent presentation at the library, as well as Karen’s quiet presence. What a great team you are. Your generosity of time and enthusiasm is inspiring, Andrew. I have passed your details on to friends. What a great thing it would be in schools. So many of our rites of passage – cars, alcohol, cigarettes – are so destructive. I trust your courses will be enjoyed by many.”–Jane
Keep your eye out for the Intensive Change DVD and Weekend Workshops. More details shortly.
The Gift – Siddharta
‘Siddhartha’ is a novel by Hermann Hesse that deals with the spiritual journey of self-discovery of a man named Siddhartha during the time of the Gautama Buddha. The book, Hesse’s ninth novel, was written in German, in a simple, lyrical style. It was published in the U.S. in 1951.
Hesse commented in a letter “[my] Siddhartha does not, in the end, learn true wisdom from any teacher, but from a river that roars in a funny way and from a kindly old fool who always smiles and is secretly a saint.”
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